Each of us was able to detect the emotions of others. It & # 39; and basic survival skills for people and for animals. This ability is usually mild childhood we learn to be more verbal, emotional as well.
experiencing, and secondly, that increased sensitivity to other people & # 39; and the emotions that constantly evolving over time. Like the other children stop picking up emotional signals, Empath children become completely overwhelmed by the sheer volume of information they get emotional social settings.
Because most parents do not know if they are experiencing, does not recognize the signs of the children. It also prevents them from effectively teach the children how to deal with the emotional overflow. A more thorough discussion of adult sources of empathy, you can read the articles on the topic here.
Emotional intelligence is defined as "the ability capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of a & # 39; s self, of others and of groups" (Salovey and Mayer , 1990). If you teach your children how to deal with the Empath skills, developing emotional intelligence.
There are three basic concepts that need to be addressed in order to effectively manage the emotional information.
1. Authorization: You control the Empath or skills to guide
(a curse or a blessing?)
2. Focus: Can you still hear the own inner self first and foremost (lift over chaos)
3. Flow: There are emotional information and freely ( do you have a power outlet?)
is your child an empath?
different ways of treatment of children Empath skills. The range of available response is less, so they usually take a very quiet (in a way to calm down the emotional chaos of feeling), or acting out (in a way that is louder than the emotional noise).
Remember that children learn how to deal with the Empath monitoring capabilities to deal with yours. If you & # 39; empath, but I do not know how to deal with to get help for yourself first!
These behaviors have been observed Empath kids who do not know how to deal with their capabilities
- Gets unusually quiet (often seen as shyness) surrounded by crowds, but the fine in immediate families or small groups. The children try to feel empowered and focused on withdrawing from the world.
- Gets physically or verbally out of control around people, but gentle at home. The children try to find the exit flow of incoming overwhelming emotions.
- resists going to bed or wake up often. Your child while trying to stay centered around the emotional activities of adults.
- Catch all the available disease (colds, flu, ear infections, etc.). The children feel empowered to try stopping unwanted emotional activity. Vomiting is often the only way a child can use it to withdraw from social situations.
Of course, this requires about 85% of children. I believe that most kids do not suffer from mismanagement of the Empath skills. I also think that more and more children are being born every day Empath. So 85% number is not shocking to me.
The point is: you can help your child by using a happier life Empath means? If this does not help, you & # 39; on the right track!
Note: This list is not diagnostic or Management. I'm not a doctor or mental health professional. Experiencing some of the features can be diagnosed as ADD, clinical depression or agoraphobia. Contact your health care professional if you have any questions, you need the diagnosis and treatment of a mental health problem.
In order to help your child, you need tools that deal with the three concepts (empowerment, orientation and flow). This is a technique I developed with my son.
Empath Anchoring Technique:
When a child gets overwhelmed, often only need a point of reference remain grounded. It can be the anchor.
1. Calm own emotions. It can not be a positive anchor, if you & # 39; upset or angry.
2. Say softly, "Look into my eyes" (points to his eyes), and put a hand on his chest. Be sure to make eye contact with next step!
3. Tell him, 'What & # 39;. Will hold together five breaths and count them " Let your child breathes however you want. You & # 39; only accompanying him, counting every loud exhalation.
breathing calms the emotional noise, re-centers the mind and helps children feel empowered to by something you can do if you feel uncomfortable. Includes Empath should anchor the night routine!